10 year Anniversary!!

Tomorrow we will be celebrating our “10 year Anniversary”, the day the Lord brought us back together! I can’t believe it! We have come along way. I wish I could say that it was beautiful, blissful, we never argued or got mad at each other, or wanted to divorce each other….again. But I’d be lying if I did. So I am going to be real and share that it was not easy and it’s been hard, it’s been trying and at times, and we almost did last year, want to get another divorce.

You see we were married before 16 years ago. We were not Christians, we were living worldly lives! My story I’ve shared here on the blog, see below.

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By God’s grace, mercy and amazing love for us and my family, He brought us back together {10 years ago} for a purpose. For His purpose. I look back now and see how blessed we are, and see how God was working, chiseling  strengthening, molding, shaping, and growing us. He is not finished with us yet, we are still His work in progress. We always will be until He comes for us.

Yes, it hurt at times, and at times I’ve wanted to come off that surgery table, too many to count. I’ve wanted to give up, I’ve wanted to throw the towel in, I wanted to cry “mercy” and I did. I used to covet those marriages that always seemed perfect on the outside, that seemed like they could communicate, and seemed “they had it all”. Why didn’t I have it that way?

A couple of years ago, I remember a lady had asked me, on a day we had been having some intense fellowship. She said ” you and your husband are the perfect couple.” I was like looking around making sure she wasn’t talking to me, it was someone else, not me. I said “we do???” She explained why, it was at that point that I wasn’t going to pretend anymore that we are happy all the time, that we never argued. I said “thank you, and we are not perfect, we are far from it”. I didn’t go into detail with her, but I let her know that if she would have seen us 1/2 an hour ago she wouldn’t have thought so. I used to put up a front that there was nothing wrong with our marriage. We were fine, at least I wanted to believe that we were. I was afraid of what people were going to think, we didn’t have it all together. God showed me we are not the only ones that struggle and it’s ok to say “You know, I’m having a rough time in my marriage right now, pray for me”.

I gave up on wanting to be like “that couple”….. because one day I saw that “they” didn’t have it all together, and “they” did fight like we did, and “they” were just like us. I learned allot that day, and realized that I was blessed right where I was at and blessed beyond measure. The grass is not greener on the other side, and God has you exactly where you need to be.

I’m here to say that there is no perfect marriage, so stop striving for perfect. There is no such thing. Start striving for a Godly marriage. I just want to share with you that I don’t have the perfect marriage {nor do I want one}, I don’t have it all together. I’m a hot mess most of the time. We struggle just like any other marriage. But we forgive each other, and that is big in a marriage. In life in general it’s huge. I can tell you that without the Lord in our lives, and the support and love we get at our home church, we would not be here today as a married couple.  We would not be a thriving couple that we are today, there is no possible way that we could without the Lord. none.period.

I want the marriage God wants us to have. My husband is the right man for me..he is my Hero!! He is the most amazing man God could have blessed me with. I don’t deserve someone like Him, but I am so blessed to have Him. I wouldn’t change anything or have it any other way.

I truly believe that the trials we have endured has made us stronger. And we have grown as a couple not only  together but with the Lord. If what we have gone through will help just one marriage from divorce, then it was all worth it. Every tear, every argument, every struggle…it was all worth it.

Marriage isn’t easy, you are going to have struggles and trials. But allot of it has to do with how we handle it. When those times come, pray, trust in the Lord, cry out to Him. He is the only one that can truly help you as He has with us. And I promise He will see you through it.

Heavenly Father, I thank you for these past 16 years you have given me with my husband. God you have taken what we have messed up and turned it into something Beautiful! I could have never imagined that we would be where we are today if it wasn’t for you and our willing hearts. I pray that you’d give more joyful years, I know some may be harder than others. But I know that you’ll see us through every one. Father, I pray for any marriages that are rocky ground right now, that are even contemplating divorce. Lord I ask that You would stop that dead in it’s tracks, that you would guide them to what you have for them. Restoration. I pray that you would soften and change hearts Lord. I pray that they would be willing hearts who would want to work it out. Satan is the author of confusion, destruction and division he wants there to be no marriages that are thriving in You. Lord may we take a stand and fight for our marriages with all we’ve got. I know that you will bless that. So Father I pray if there is any wife here who is hurting would you comfort her, love on her like her like no other today Lord. I thank You for what you are going to do in those rocky marriages and for what you are doing in mine. I thank you again, and I love Lord. In Jesus CHRIST name I pray. AMEN!!!

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places. . . . 

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 Blessings,
 
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4 thoughts on “10 year Anniversary!!

  1. Adrienne This is such a blessing and awesome testimony. I would love for you to guest blog over at my place if you feel led to do so. I would love for our readers to hear this testimony. Congrats on your anniversary.Your sister in ChristStephnie

  2. Hi Stephanie!! Thank you for your opportunity!! I love your blog and your amazing. I love all the stuff you share too. I am so blessed that you would ask me to be your guest, I would love to. I know I'm not the best writer but I will try my best. It's for His glory not mine. I would love to, it would def be a blessing. I will email you soon so we can gov over it!!!Blessings,Adrienne

  3. Happy Anniversary Adrienne!!! Such a powerful testimony of Gods redeeming love for your marriage!! I wish you both many more years together!! Love you! Hugs! Have a blessed weekend!

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